This week's mindful mantra is about toddler reactions and responses, and choosing to accept and understand them.
With developing minds comes high emotions, intense reactions and total outbursts. While our toddlers are overall great kids, neither of them have much experience with compromise. Zinnia is of course an only child, and my nephew Gabriel was an only child until 4 months ago.
When either of them hit each other, or burst into tears at having to take turns I can't help but feel a sense of disappointment. Even though I know that their emotions are far from being fully understood and that self-regulation centres are barely beginning to develop. Then I feel guilty. It's not their fault. They are doing the best they can right at this moment.
This week, through all our adventures, cherished family time and long drives I will do my best to remind myself of this mantra and let the disappointment and guilt go.
I will breathe deeply when they experience a big emotion or seemingly irrational reaction and remind myself of their age, their capacity and their good nature. They are growing right now, at insane speeds. They are learning as they experience. It is not my job to get upset, it is my job to model understanding. It is not my job to scold them, it is my job to teach them things like empathy and compassion for others.
If you too are experiencing an overwhelming toddler, try using this mindful mantra with me this week. Deep breath in, deep breathe out, they are doing the best they can right at this moment.