Building connected relationships, what life is all about. If you ask me.
On Zen Parenting Radio one of the hosts, Cathy Adams, is always talking about the age old saying “it takes a village to raise a child". While I had never felt this wasn't true, I had never really felt like it meant much to me personally.
This month that changed. I began watching my connections in a whole new way, really soaking in what I saw and what was around me.
So far this month I have spent time with my own little family, extended family and friends both old and new. I started to ask myself some questions, what does it mean to have so many people close to you? how do these people impact you? do you know what parts of yourself come from each one of these people?
I then realized: I have always had a village, and now so does Zinnia.
From extended family members to best friends, I feel so grateful and honoured to have so many people I truly trust and can count on, people I have been bringing around my daughter since the day she was born.
With 12 grandparents (incld. greats), 5 uncles, 5 aunts and 4 cousins, Zinnia already has a huge village! Having made family time a priority from the beginning, I could not be happier to say that she is actually close with every single one of them and the list does not stop there!
At this point there are probably close to 40 people that at any given point in Zinnia’s life she could turn to for love, support, an ear or a shoulder (if for some reason she didn’t feel she could come to Shane or myself). We will always work at making sure Zinnia feels like she can talk to us about anything but at some point that may not be the case.
Now realizing that we have this great big village of loving support gives me so much comfort!
These important people in my life affect me in so many positive ways, from inspiration and motivation to love and acceptance, and just like that, my daughter now has them too.
I know that sometimes it is hard to get out of the house, host people at your own house or even call someone on the phone, but connecting with people you love and care about and putting in time with those people is important. They are your village. At some point your child might need someone other than their parents, and that is not only ok, it is normal.
Modelling healthy relationships, not only with your partner, but with everyone you bring around your child, is a valuable life lesson for them. It also gives them the opportunity to have more teachers, more supporters and more friends themselves and what could be more wonderful than that?
Show love, grow love
Happy Living Parents
*Pictured throughout this post are some of the members of our village