Since we began our week with Mother's Day I found it time to use one of my favourite mindful mantra's: I am thankful.
This mantra has always been very grounding for me. In my toughest and most challenging times, when I feel like I could burst with anger, frustration or sadness, whispering what I am thankful for has always given me immense power.
Highlighting the good (sometimes reluctantly) shifts my mental state and re-directs my attention to the things that are going right. This does not mean that I do not still feel the feelings. This mantra simply lightens those feelings and reminds me that the bad stuff isn't all that I have, giving me space to feel the anger, rather than become it and cultivating acceptance while paving the way for release.
My mother's day was simple. Just the way I like it. I spent time with my mother and my daughter and was able to appreciate motherhood from both perspectives. I spent half of the day thinking about all the many reasons I am thankful to have the mother that I do. My mother is selfless, courageous, inspiring and above all else, she is strong. I am who I am because of my mother and for that my thankfulness for her only grows. I spent the other half of the day thinking about all the many reasons I am thankful to be a mother. My daughter has taught me so much more than I ever could have imagined. She reminds me to live presently, feel honestly and act authentically and for all those reasons and more I am so truly thankful to be her mom.
Use this mantra to highlight all the little things that happen to you through the process of parenthood, giving thanks to each and every one of them. You might recognize something your child taught you and say I am thankful for learning. You might catch yourself swooning over some new adorable word or expression from your child and say I am thankful that you are in my life. You might wake up and open your blinds and say I am thankful for this day. You might get your child down for a nap and have some much needed me-time and say I am thankful for this moment. Whatever it might be that catches your attention and makes your heart smile and your eyes widen, remind yourself to be thankful.
I hope all the parents who read this had a wonderful mother's day and that the thankfulness may continue into the rest of your week.